Wednesday, February 4, 2009

Even Nice Words Can Hurt

I WAS having a GREAT day! Bree said her name! It brought tears of joy! I was so excited and that made her so excited, she just kept saying it over and over! It is really the first word she has been able to say (other than 'hi') that was understandable to more than just me! She will be 2 this month and we were really getting worried that her speech may not come or at least as well as we hoped. But today I was given a boost of hope that was so badly needed.
I was so excited about it, I recorded it on my phone an sent it to grandparents, aunts and uncles! I just wanted to share it. Someone in my family called me back and it was very excited but then she said "Well, it is just great. I mean she will never be up to par with "G" (Bree's cousin), but it is wonderful for her". What? Really? We are comparing her to her totally healthly cousin that is nearly 1/2 year older than Bree? It kinda dashed my excitement and put a little damper on my day. I know I shouldn't let it get me down, but it hurt a little. Those kind of comments usually do. I am trying to let it roll off and just be happy that she is showing huge improvement and there is a good possibility that her speech ability will come soon!
I knew if anyone could understand it would be the tulip bunch! Thanks for being here, all of you!

6 comments:

Susan said...

Every garden has it's weeds. That's the type of comment that would hurt me too. some people may never 'get it'. But I like your attitude of trying to let it roll off your back. (easier said than done) That's what we do in here in Holland. We enjoy the tulips and throw out the weeds!!! HOORAY FOR BREE!!! HOORAY FOR BREE!!! congratulations!

Katie said...

Ouch! I have a hard enough time not comparing JT to others myself I certainly don't want others doing it too so I understand. Susan is right though, Bree is amazing and that is what I want to stress. Yea for you both!! I am so happy for you. It's wonderful to hear about success.

heidi @ ggip said...

Comparisons can be really tricky. I know that it is not a good idea even to compare Blue to other kids with CdLS. It is TEMPTING to compare, but not healthy, I think

Anita Nap said...

That's awful. You just can't compare apples to bananas, right? I'm sorry that happened but HOORAY BREE!!!!! That is so great!

Happy in Holland said...

Congrats Bree! That is so exciting! I agree--let's enjoy the tulips and throw out the weeds!

Mel said...

Yeah, I'm so happy for you and Bree! Gosh, some people just don't know how to give a compliment. I think I would have said something.