I am looking for some help. It has nothing to do with medical help, just emotional help is the best way to desribe it. As I have already said, our oldest son has autism. So having things different for us is nothing new. For those of you who have kids on the spectrum, I know you understand the need for set routines, ect. And you life basically revolves around it. Our son's bedtime is 8:30pm. In order to get him to bed and to sleep on time, we need to start the nightly routine at 6:45-7ish every night. If we are out at family functions (since that is basically all we do as a family), we know it will take 2 hours at night for him to calm down and do his thing in order to go to bed. It's not hard on weekday nights to be home and into the swing of things at 6:45. The one thing that has come up is that our church just moved to 9am. We used to have 1pm so if Trevor got to bed late, it was fine. Now it is no longer OK. So we have to be home by 7 at the latest now to get him to bed on time. Saturday nights used to be the one night a week we had to stay out later, have big family dinner's, ect. My extended family loves to do game nights and did one again last night. Since it didn't even start until 6:30, we couldn't make it. Now this isn't a new thing, we have missed so many I can't even begin to count, family get-togethers since it didn't work into our schedule. But for some reason I am really having a hard time with it.
So I am wondering if you have had this problem as well, and if you have any suggestions on how to not get upset? It seems like we miss so many things these days with having two kids that are special needs. It's not my family's fault, not our fault, but it still happens. I think it is hard to not feel left out of the 'regular' things that go on. There is no easy solution, and I know it has to come with my attitude. So if any of you have had simliar situations, what have you done to get through it?
PS. Katie, I am interested in the Melatonin. Can you bring it to playgroup on tuesday?