Monday, November 3, 2008
I've always thought that as Moms to special needs kids, we have different responsibilities, as opposed to having more responsibilities. I'm beginning to wonder. I've been through such a barrage of doctor's appointments, therapies, specialists, tests and follow-ups over the last while that a melt down seems eminent. It definitely seems like more. I'm craving simplicity. It's all started me wondering if I'm not just trading soccer practice and dance lessons for therapists and doctors, but that I'm trading it for an awful lot more....ya know what I mean? I have a friend who told her husband that they are not like other people, and cannot do what other people do. I've said those same things in my mind about M.K. 'she is special. she isn't like other kids. She can't do the things that other kids do.' I never thought of it in connection with myself or my family. I'm not sure what I think about it. If we do - do more- is that why other people think we're supermoms? Is it even possible to do special mom things AND normal mom things? Or should we be telling ourselves that like our children, we cannot do all the things that regular Moms do? My first instinct says that of course we can do it all. Then my exhaustion kicks in and says, 'no - we do a lot of extra, special, stuff. We shouldn't have to hold ourselves to the same standards and then some. Really I think it's probably just a personal issue. A matter of prioritizing and balance. (something I'm not doing well at right now) But it's an interesting question.....what do the rest of you girls think about it?